As a person who always put others needs first, I tend to forget about my own. I have been left shaken and lost these last few weeks, as I became so used to putting all my love and energy into everyone else. As the summer is beginning to wrap up with everyone is working and moving on with their lives, I have been forced to only worry about taking care of myself. Though this is quite sad for someone like myself, who thrives off others energy, in the end it may be very beneficial.
I have forgotten how to love myself.
Lately, I have been very insecure about my body and just my overall personality. These insecurities are something I really want to work on before I go off to college. Granted, all my insecurities won’t be fully fixed in these next two months, but I hope to see at least some improvement. Every girl- actually every person-has insecurities. However, nobody would ever know because for some reason no one talks about it. Why is not socially acceptable to share our flaws? Why do we all make ourselves seem perfect? Why, when someone opens up to you about an issue, you just pretend you have never felt that way before? Why are so we so scared to be imperfect and why are we so scared to love ourselves before others?
I have done tons of research on self-love/women empowerment over these past few weeks and have compiled the best tips THAT ACTUALLY WORK to begin your journey of self-love.

Be kind to yourself
When you mess up or do something embarrassing, rather than beat yourself up about it, learn from it. Figure out what caused this mistake.. Were you tired, hungry, overworked or jealous, and then figure out what you can do next time to see better results. Being hard on yourself sometimes is needed when you need a little boost, but it can become overpowering and you can become filled with an insane amount of self-hate.

Now, this doesn’t mean go to the spa and blow 300 dollars on a massage even though that may sound nice. Pampering yourself after a long day of work or school could mean taking a bath, watching your favorite show, getting a grande instead of a tall at Starbucks… something little to cheer yourself up and boost your spirits. Pampering yourself physically or mentally are both great ways to relax and show yourself a little extra love.

Surround yourself with positive people
Being around confident good people will inspire and motivate you to love yourself. Life is all about who you surround yourself and nobody can do this on their own. You need the support and love from people around you. Positive energy is contagious.

Clear your mind
Get to know yourself and truly understand your current beliefs and values, and what they mean to you. If your beliefs and values are not fulfilling, think about why you are still clinging onto them. There are many different activities that can help you clear your mind such as meditation, read a book, workout, talk to a friend, or color.

Journaling is a very individual activity and can be very therapeutic. In a world filled with social media, it is really difficult to unplug. Journaling can also boost your mood and recharge your brain. But if you journal daily, it can be the perfect excuse to get away from all the technology and to only focus on yourself.

When was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back or said you were proud of yourself? Maybe you aced your test, made the sports team, made a new friend or got a new job. Recognize all of your accomplishments every day and take a few moments to praise yourself! Taking some time to realize our strengths/wins, our self-esteem will be boosted and our confidence! Celebrate the wins!

Good luck with your self-love journey!

Words to live by





What I wish I knew in high school



It’s a scary/crazy thing: that moment when you realize that high school is over. I am so beyond thankful for my time in high school. I cherish all the people I met there and all the long-lasting relationships I made. I hope this helps someone who is starting high school or in their last year of it. My goal for this post is for anyone reading this to know… you can always learn something new. I am so excited to start college next year and will take all these lessons with me.

As cliche as that sounds, taking risks is an amazing thing. Audition for the play. Run for student council. Join the cheer team or try out for volleyball. I wish I had become more active in my school by joining as many clubs and teams as possible. Try everything. I truly only regret times when I let my fear get the best of me and didn’t try at all.

You can’t do it all on your own! Ask for help when needed; everyone in your community is there to support you. You will not seem weak in asking for help, whether it’s in a class or a personal issue, you will actually seem strong because you are making the right decision for yourself. No successful high school student did it by themselves.

High schoolers are pulled in many directions: school, work, family, friends, relationships, sports etc… it’s so hard to fit them all in. So, having a balance and managing your time is important in order to find success in all those areas.

You didn’t wash your hair last night or are wearing the same shirt you wore last week nobody will care or NOTICE. Everyone is too worried about what they look like, they aren’t focused on anyone else.

Friends come and go. Relationships end, but your family is always there. Appreciate them while you can before you leave the nest.

Sleep is food for your brain. You need sleep to be able to function especially during this busy time of your life. Lack of sleep makes it very difficult to get along with your family and friends and cause you to do to do bad on tests and cause lack of focus during sports. So please sleep !!

Make new friends and talk to new people. Making friends is an essential part of life and there is no better time than high school to start exploring that skill. Making friends is so fun and you are able to connect with so many more people.