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How to find ALONE time in college *its all about meee*

Me me me time

College is hard. I crave alone time, but it’s not always feasible.

Alone time, something I cherish so much has recently gone out the window since coming to college. Let me start by saying if you are about to go to college, soak up all of your alone at home because once you get to college, you are never alone. The social aspect of school can be super exciting but also exhausting.

For someone who craves alone time, it was a big transition to have to live with someone to consistently be surrounded by people…whether it’s eating, studying, showering, or even using the bathroom, privacy is a commodity. It’s a lot to take in. But over my many many many months of being away from home, I have discovered lots of ways you can get some alone time. Having time alone is essential for our SANITY! Trust me, without some quiet moments to myself, I would be a raging bish.

I try to have “mini-me” moments throughout the day. Sometimes that means eating alone (yes, eating alone is OK!), or studying at a table alone in the library…you can find me hiding in the back lol. I also love taking the long way to class (when it’s not 100 degrees). Nothing is better than walking with your headphones in, jamming out to your favorite songs. I am the girl that has her music wayyyyy too loud, so don’t walk next to me unless you’re cool with listening to my jams. Deciding to stay in on a night when everyone goes out so that you can get homework done or just relax chill is 100% allowed. I’m guilty of being lame and taking a night off of going out for my sanity (even though my FOMO is UNREAL). Does anyone else experience extreme FOMO?? I have come to learn you cannot have FOMO in college because everyone will be doing things at different days/times, and you’re never really missing out. Stay in if you need it. Your mental health and your body come before a night at the bar, …but sometimes a night out is maybe what the doctor has ordered lol.

Taking time for YOURSELF is NOT selfish!!!!!!!

Here are little ways I try to incorporate those “mini-me” moments into my day and night…they always make me so happy!

Face masks: I am a facemask junkie, so I plop one of those suckers on and close my eyes. Relaxing is critical for a perfect night in.
Meditate: Idk, is this weird? Doesn’t matter, because I am the biggest fan of it (Headspace app is AMAZING)
Speak your truth: Literally, just say you want to be alone. My friend Rachel, who I am constantly texting/talking, will sometimes text me and be like, “Okay, bye, alone time.” I so respect that and need to work on it. If you have great friends, they will understand that you NEED some alone time.
Treat yourself: Dive into a craving – yes, I do sit in my room and eat five packs of fruit snacks some nights, but, whatever, I’m treating myself!
Paint your nails: I love painting my nails, but HATE (with a burning passion) waiting for them to dry. I try to just turn on a show and chill.
Take a walk alone: Yes, I really do take the long way to class sometimes. Not only do I get my steps in, but walking helps to clear my head. Listening to podcasts is my favorite thing to do on these walks!
Call your mama or an old friend: Thank god for FaceTime because I am a nosy bishhh. Call the people you care about and see what they are up to. It’s a great distraction and allows you to reconnect. It can also be very comforting!
Go somewhere UPTOWN or off-campus: Find a small coffee shop or spot where students will not be. Sometimes it’s relaxing to be away from the hustle and bustle of campus.
-Connect with someone you don’t often see: A lot of times, it’ s not so much that I want to be alone, it’s more that I am with the same people all the time (before you come for me, I love you friends). Meet up with an old or new friend to study or chat on campus. It’s nice to meet new people or catch up with one of your friends from your class last semester, and foster those relationships as well.
Get up early: My friend Grace goes to Starbucks every morning. The girl loves her coffee. She meets her friend there but always goes twenty minutes early so she can have some me-time.
Plan it with your roomie: My angel cutie roommate Sage has all “early” classes (meaning 10:05’s), so I always have the mornings to myself, which I love. I know when she will be back from class or when she’s gone so that I can plan my alone time in the room.

Alone time is essential to survive and thrive in college. I hope this helps and you can find some quiet time by yourself this week.

XO,

Hannah

How to prioritize your mental health

With summer in full swing, all of us are extremely busy working, seeing friends, getting back into shape, and trying to eat healthy to get that perfect bikini body. But a lot of times, our mental health can be pushed to the side. Taking time out of the daily hustle and bustle to check in with yourself is essential to living a happy life.

It’s no secret that I am a big advocate in ending the mental health stigma, and by talking about prioritizing your mental health I hope I can do my part to put that to rest. No matter where you are in your mental health journey (Whether you are struggling, or have never had mental health issues before) I encourage you all to take a few minutes out of your day to read this. Not only just read this but apply one or more (or all lol) of these tips to your daily life.

Disclaimer: I am not a professional. these tips are all from personal experience and what has worked for my body, mind, soul, and heart. I hope these tips and tricks work for you and your lifestyle.

One thing I always hear people say is “I am too busy to take care of myself and my feelings.. it’s a waste of time.” My response to that is you are never too busy for things you care about, and if you do not prioritize your own mental health things may begin to fall apart.

Sophomore year of high school I was diagnosed with several mental health disorders. Part of that diagnosis was because it was true and I wholeheartedly believe that was bound to happen to me, however, I also think it was because I had never put myself and mental health first. Now I have learned how to prioritize my mental health and it has changed me for the better. Here are some of my favorite tips:

Keep a journal specifically for gratitude.
A lot of times when going through a rough patch you feel the world around you is crumbling and you lose sight of life. Keep a journal and write in it every morning three to five things you are thankful for. By doing this it can assist in pulling you out of that dark space and is a physical reminder on how lucky you are.

Positive self talk
Noticing how you talk to yourself is very important. A lot of times we can get into our heads and work ourselves up about small issues. “I can’t do this” is a phrase I often heard in my mind when I was facing my anxiety issues. Instead of saying that, I changed it to “I can do this with the help of (fill in the blank).” Changing phrases or words can have a huge impact on you.

Saying YES
I know this tip can be a controversy and, trust me, the last thing you want to do when struggling with your mental health is saying yes to a party or get together buttttt it really does help. I find when I am anxious or sad going and see my friends makes a world of a difference, even if I wasn’t in the mood. It’s essential to realize how you are feeling, what you are dealing with and how you would like to move forward. Maybe it is saying yes to a coffee date with a friend and telling them how you have been feeling. Saying yes doesn’t have to be to a huge party, it can be just hanging out with a friend or going shopping for something to get you out of your house and out of your head.

Having an exit
When entering a new public setting, it can be overwhelming and very anxiety-filled. It’s important to recognize how you are feeling and map out an exit strategy in case you are overwhelmed. My biggest hack is in classrooms I always sit by the door and in lecture halls, And I am always in the last seat in a row in case something were to happen.

Never be afraid to talk about it
Whether you confide in a therapist, parent, friend, mentor, teacher it’s just important to start talking. Find a go-to person when you are having a rough day and let them know you appreciate their support.

Get active
Whether it’s a walk or a 10-mile run, any exercise helps. Walking my dog is something I love to do when feeling anxious and gets me out of the house. Anyone who knows me knows I love the dog park and it’s a great way to be active with your pup.

SLEEEEEP
Yes, getting enough ZZZs is so important for your body and overall mood. Personally speaking, when sleep deprived, I am cranky and way more anxious about little things. I have trouble sleeping at night; my mind tends to race with the next day ahead or all of worries/anxieties. Melatonin has helped me immensely with sleeping and I love how its all-natural. I also love my calm powder; I mix it into water and drink before bed to calm me down. My weighted blanket has been the most impactful thing for me, as it really allowed me to stay still and relax my body when going to sleep. Sleep is essential so make sure you are going to bed at a decent hour.

Prioritize your mental health and remember you only get one of you…. So take care of yourselves, friends.

Xoxo,

Hannah

“You’ve changed”

“You’ve changed”

The phrase has been said to me, I’ve said it to myself and have overheard others saying it about other people. I am not sure why this phrase has a negative connotation in my mind. “You’ve changed “ has always seemed like a diss to me until I realized no… I have changed and I am okay with it.

I walked away from high school thinking I had left all my baggage in the past like my mental health issues, my breakup, and my weak girl attitude. But little did I know I carried that girl into the summer and I’d say about the first month of college. It’s kind of hard to let go of the person you once were and leave it all the past. I kept this girl with me and thought it was just someone I had to be. I put on my non-confrontational face and still felt heartbroken of my troubles from previous relationships. For me to stand up for myself and be confident were things I never associated with myself. Things I always wanted to be but somehow never could. The thought of me being carefree would make others laugh uncontrollably. But why? Who said I couldn’t be all those things and more. So I changed to be the person I had always wanted to be. Changed for the better. It was not a flip of a switch it took time. It was not like I needed to change but it felt like something I wanted to do. I always say this phrase to others when we talk about people or things that have changed… “you’re not growing if you are not changing.”

I have grown immensely over this past year. I know so cliche to say that about your first year of college. But to all you incoming college freshman it will happen to you. You’re priorities shift, you care less of what others think, you become more go with the flow, you literally live with another human therefore that teaches you that you can’t control everything that happens. You are surrounded by my new people and a new environment. The college culture is so different compared to high school. You are always being presented with new ideas and new challenges. I have met so many people I would never be friends with a few years back. I have surrounded myself with the greatest group of girls with the best mix of chill and literally crazy haha. Now its not all sunshine in rainbows. I do slip back into that anxious shy girl at times but I have learned how to shake it off and move forward. I am the happiest I’ve ever been in my life by making small changes in myself.

Change is okay an essential don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.

I encourage all of you to become the women or man you want to be.

It is possible.

Stop comparing. Start being confident.


PSA- Get ready for a deep blog post loves hehe

Is there a definite answer to stop all comparison? A tough question I propose and in all honesty I do not contain any of the answers. If there is, please let me know lol.

I think every girl goes through a period in life where they wish to change herself to be like someone else. A period where they feel less confident and start hating the person they are. Now, prepare yourself for a very rambly, venting blog post where everything may not make sense. It was difficult for me to get out everything I wanted to say with perfect sentence structure and punctuation. It can be hard to put into words what I am feeling.

I admit in today’s society it’s tough to not scroll on Instagram and dream of having what someone else has. It’s not uncommon to be jealous of the popular girl or the girl with the perfect boyfriend. It’s hard to not want the new expensive shoes your friend has but would have to sell your left arm to afford. It can be difficult when your friend aces a test and you get a c and instantly envy her, but I have found that comparing myself and my life to others just ends up destroying me.

Not sure why lately I have been constantly comparing my looks, clothes, and personality to others. Maybe since it’s spring break and I am not bikini body ready or that I had recently joined a sorority where I feel at times not pretty enough for it. Whatever the reason may be I knew I needed to stop and get out of this negative headspace.

The last few weeks I have not been loving myself as much as I usually do- I know it’s getting deep friends. At night I constantly wish I could be someone else. I started to hate my body and pick apart all my flaws that I saw in my eyes. I want a flat tummy and gorgeous long blonde hair. No stretch marks and perfect skin. I swear I know people who have never gotten a pimple before and it’s insane. I have always had super dark plain brown hair and a curvier body. Many stretch marks over my thighs and hips showing how my weight has fluctuated over the years. I would spend hours in the mirror looking at my stretch marks and I have tried every cream in the store to get rid of them but, trust me, it doesn’t work. You’re welcome I just saved you a lot of money. But I have come to realize those marks on my body have shown I have grown and my dark brown hair was something I turned out to embrace. I prided myself on how I never had to dye my hair to keep it beautiful. Also how the water in the showers at school didn’t turn my hair brassy and orange. Sorry to my pretty blonde hair friends I promise your hair is not orange @abbysmullen. I tried to change my perspective on myself and maybe others wanted to have the flaws I saw in myself.

I had prayed I would magically transform into this carefree fun friend who everyone wants to hang out with. The girl that was bold and not worried so much if they were up late or their room was a mess. A girl who could touch the door handle without worrying about germs. Someone who didn’t have to run to the bathroom to wash their hand constantly . I had wished I wasn’t so anxious about things that seemed stupid or little to others but were huge to me. I wanted to be strong and less emotional when someone hurts my feelings. Every new year rolls around and I say my motto is “I don’t care.” My high school friends know this best hahaha every year I have the same resolution of caring less. Let me just tell you I never end up being able to achieve it lol. I dreamed of being one of those girls who did not care about what others thought of them and let negative comments just roll right off. Those are all traits I believe I lack when comparing myself to others.

But then I thought about myself and my personality. Maybe others compare themselves to me. Maybe some people wished they had traits I carry. Maybe, just maybe, I had some things special about me. I am empathetic and can wholeheartedly put myself in other’s shoes. As much as I say I don’t care, I usually care A LOT. Which I always say to my mom is a blessing or a curse. I care so deeply about everyone who is in my life and even if you are not part of my life, I care about you too haha. I possess a trait of thoughtfulness and everything I do I do with intention. I think I get my traits from my dad who may be more sensitive than me… haha sorry dad to expose you. But, being emotional and sensitive can be seen a negative thing in the public and something I wanted to change about myself when looking at others. I remember a specific time in middle school a friend telling me “Hannah you are too nice”. I had always thought being nice was something everyone strived to be up until that point. I realized maybe I am too nice so I decided to try and change. I suddenly wanted to be mean to others and become cocky. I tried those traits out for a little until I realized I felt bad about what I was doing. I came to the realization those are not me. No matter how hard you try you can never fully change who you are. Yes, I have gotten less emotional and probably less nice over the years. But that’s probably because I have been through and seen a lot of shit for lack of a better word. At the core of my body I am still that nice caring girl. Even though my personality is something I haven’t liked about myself lately I think it has to lead me into my future career and helped me be an amazing friend to many.

So yes I compare. I compare a lot. I compare my looks to pretty Instagram models or my friends or people on campus. I compare what I have. I compare my grades. I compare my personality. I compare too much. Like said before I had just not been liking myself these past few weeks. And when I thought back to why I had maybe been feeling this way one word came to mind. Comparison. Comparison is the thief of joy and has made me unhappy with myself. On my road to coming to love myself again, I have found ways to not compare my life to others and become more confident in who I am. So how do we break this horrible cycle of comparison and become confident here are some tips I have learned or close friends have taught me-

Focus on your strengths- instead of dwelling on your weaknesses focus on your strengths. Celebrate them and embrace them. Be proud of what you are good at.

Count your blessings- What better thing to do than think about how grateful you are. Count what you have not what you don’t.

Social media is all FAKE- Once I realize how much I edit my pictures (and I don’t even think I do it that much) I realize none of it is real. it’s all marketing the “best” moments of ur life so i try to keep that in mind when scrolling through Instagram. (Rachel Klass)

Be okay with imperfection- Nobody is perfect so why would you strive for perfection. `

You have nothing to gain and too much to lose- Nothing good comes good out of comparing yourself to others but you could lose a lot like the love for yourself which is the most important.

Fake it till you believe- the people i think are most beautiful are the ones who own themselves whether they are picture perfect beauties or not. (Thanks Rachel Klass for this)

Robs you of time- Life’s so short and we only have 1440 minutes each day… you really want to waste some of those thinking about someone else.

Get yourself a hype squad– a hype squad meaning a great group of girls who will boost your confidence daily. A girl group who does not compare and a judgement free zone. (Shoutout to Grace Petryk for this)

Looks aren’t everything- I constantly reminding myself that I like the person I am like I find myself to have amazing qualities that are way more important than looks!!! (Much love to Caitie Harty for this one)

Stop comparing. Start being confident.

Xoxo,

Hannah

Lets DETOX (from social media)

Ahhh one of my favorite things to do is a social media detox. Now I know the thought of deleting Instagram for a few days may cause some of you to freak but I promise it’s worth it in the end.

With spring break coming up and after these past few stressful weeks I really want to unplug and recharge. What better way to unplug then saying bye bye to your loved social media apps.

I try to do this every few months whether it is four days detox or four weeks. I instantly feel refreshed and more centered in my life. So many people ask how I do this. I admit it is often hard which is so stupid to me to even say that and how I rely so much on social media. But I feel it’s something everyone must try at least once. I encourage all of you to do this over spring break! What better way to recharge then sitting on the beach reading a book not worrying about your phone at all.

Now the only way I can successfully do this social media detox is deleting the apps. Not my accounts but the apps. It decreases the temptation of simply clicking on the app just to see what’s going on. After I feel recharged I re-download the apps and a lot of the times I really don’t want to download them again. It truly is a wonderful experience.

Here are FIVE amazing benefits from a social media detox:

1 -Gain more free time. Spend more time doing the things you love with the people you love or by yourself. Read a book, walk your dog, exercise, paint, journal, color the list goes on and on.

2 -You’ll stop feeling so competitive. No more scrolling through Instagram seeing pictures of perfect girls in bikinis you can just enjoy yourself and your body.

3 -You will never get FOMO because you really don’t know what’s going on. This is a good one haha. Sometimes I get sad or left out when certain pictures are posted on Vsco or Twitter. But without social media those things feelings will not happen.

4 -Your overall mood will improve. Being on technology all the time can make you sad and super sleepy. Without social media, right at your fingertips, you will feel more awake and happy.

5 – You will have more gratitude. Social media can sometimes make you feel ungrateful for what you have and drool over what other people have. It’s important to have these moments where you realize you are so thankful for the life you have.

There are so many I did not include but I hope you all join me and do this during your spring break. (:

Interview with my Grandma

This past Winter break I had the pleasure to spend two weeks in the sunshine state of Florida with my lovely grandparents. Although they live very far from my little town in Ohio, I manage to see them quite frequently. This was my first visit in a while where it was just me and them for fourteen days straight. Lucky them hahaha! Throughout this fourteen day visit, I learned more about my grandparents, especially my grandma, than maybe in my whole eighteen years.

My Grandma Pat always needs to stop at Starbucks if she sees one. She has to stop! She can’t sit down for more than twenty minutes. Grandma also never carries her cell phone which she shares with my grandpa and has to do the crosswords in every paper. Although in her 70’s this girl has never taken a day off. She is the most inspiring hard-working lady I have ever come across in my life. Not only is her style loud and proud, so is she. She one time said to me after a “late” night, actually it was only seven thirty, of eating Chinese food on the couch watching the nightly news, “once you get to my age you just have to be comfortable in your own skin and embrace your life.” I loved and admired her for saying that. You have to be comfortable with who you are and stop critiquing everything that is wrong with you and start living the life you were meant to live.

I decided to interview my Grandma because I wanted to know more about her and share how wonderful she is with all of you. I hope you learn something from this and in Grandma Pat’s words, start embracing your life.

What do you struggle with on a day-to-day basis?
I need to use my airway clearance device and it takes time out of my day and I’m always busy!

What’s the one thing that people always misunderstand about you?
I don’t know, I’m always pretty forthright with what I want or don’t want.

What have you always wanted to try?
A ride in a hot air balloon!

If you start your own non-profit, what would it be?
I think it would be to help others find a way out of poverty, not just give them aid, but show them how to help themselves.

What are the 3 most beautiful things in the world?
Easy, my husband, my children and my grandchildren. I also love nature and all the beautiful scenery in this world.

What’s the kindest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
I would probably like to do more, but I remember driving down the street and handing a person who was holding one of those business signs and giving him my McDonald’s. Also a little old lady trying to buy a cup of coffee at a McDonald’s with a dime she found, so I bought her lunch. I really don’t go to McDonald’s very often!

Are you good at keeping secrets?
Yes

Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?
Yes

Do you believe in second chances?
Yes, we all make mistakes and, hopefully, learn from them.

Who do you look up to the most? Why?
2 people. My neighbors next door who are in their 80s and are physically active, active with their church and family and are a loving couple. Also my friend Anne, she is a convert to Catholicism and a staunch Republican. She lived in several countries and raised 4 kids in the process. She handles all the Eucharistic Ministers at church and would be someone I would go to if I had a problem.

If you could travel anywhere where would you want to go?
As you know, I have traveled many places and loved them all. I still have many places I would love to see – South America, Canada and many more places in the US. Africa was the most beautiful and interesting place I have visited. I also love all of the architecture, churches and history in Europe.

What’s your biggest regret?
Sounds simplistic, but I truly have no regrets. I have truly been blessed in my life and I thank God everyday for my family and my husband and our life together.

What was your favorite year of your life?
I loved being 25. I was living in Puerto Rico, traveling to the islands, doing a little modeling and we lived in a beautiful place.

Do you regret not going to college?
I did finish 2 years majoring in accounting and business. One year at Northern Illinois University and 1 year at Glendale Junior College when we lived in the Los Angeles area. After that I was always busy raising 4 kids, making several moves across the country as Grandpa was transferred with his company and assorted small businesses. Presently I am a Travel Agent and take clients to all parts of the world. I have a “Girl’s Trip” that I am leading in April to France.

How did you know you wanted to marry Grandpa?
I was so young! I was out of high school and working and dating with plans to go to college after earning enough money. When I met Grandpa, I had no plans for marriage, but as we dated I fell in love with him. He was smart and cute and had a sports car! What more could you want! All kidding aside, it was not unusual to marry young when I did and we say we grew up together and respected each other for who they are.

What’s your hidden talent?
Probably bridge, also racing Porsche’s while living in California!

Feeling lost and lonely? You’re not alone

Even when you are surrounded by a good family, amazing friends, fantastic teachers, and mentors you still have feelings of confusion and loneliness… you’re not alone.

This past year was a big one for many of my readers. Starting college is no joke. Old relationships die, new ones blossom, your high school boyfriend is no longer yours and someone you once called your best friend is miles away. Your family is back home tending to their own needs and your favorite teachers have new students. Its normal to feel lonely especially when the lights go out in your dorm room at night. I find myself catching a glimpse of myself in the mirror at least once a week and going “what the heck am I doing?” I am lost and a lot of times very confused. But I think that’s okay? I mean what better time to be confused or lost. I think it’s all about embracing the loneliness and calling it as me time instead. Rather than saying you are confused you are just making mistakes and finding your place in this big world.

I don’t have all the answers or amazing advice that can cure your loneliness/confusion. But I truly believe these emotions are temporary. In all honesty, I know no 18-year old that really has all their stuff together. We are all lost trying to figure out ourselves and our futures. So if you feel lost or alone talk about it with others because many are experiencing the same feelings you are. The older you get and the more you find yourself all those awful feelings will subside. Continue to stay positive and embrace the confusion. Live your life to the fullest even if you don’t know who you are or where you are going yet.

My 2019 word

Bold

Every year I make resolutions that seem to always fall through and never are achieved. I saw my favorite blogger and entrepreneur Emily Ley post on her story asking her followers to share their word for the new year. I decided to do the same on my Instagram page and was amazed at the results. Words like happy, myself, calm, simple etc.. were answered. As I scrolled through the results I kept trying to find a word that I wanted to be mine for 2019. Finally, I thought back to my college friends and a word we always say is bold. Be bold in every aspect of your life. Boldness is not one of my strong suits or a quality that people use to describe me. I can be timid and non-confrontational. I know what I want but am always hesitant to go for it. So this year I am deciding to be bold. Nothing is holding me back.

Bold according to dictionary.com can be described in three ways

1.not hesitating or fearful in the face of actual or possible danger or rebuff; courageous and daring:

2.not hesitating to break the rules of propriety; forward; impudent:

3.necessitating courage and daring; challenging:

Boldness can be applied in every aspect of your life from raising your hand in class, wearing an unusual outfit or trying something new. I feel being bold is part of growing. How will you ever learn from mistakes without being bold? I know it can be difficult to do something that makes you uncomfortable whether it goes well or bad it is always a valuable lesson.

I challenge all of you to go outside of your comfort zone and be BOLD in 2019.

How I survived my first semester of college

AHH, there is nothing like sleepless nights before you leave and the last cuddles with your dog on the couch. The last home cooked meal and the last wave goodbye to your house as you move on to start your new life. All those things seem to be gone and forgotten as you move on. But remember those things will never be gone and you get those home cooked meals again, cuddles with your dog and you will see your house again. At first, I thought college wasn’t for me and that I couldn’t succeed here. Those thoughts still consume me but time and time again I have proved myself wrong. It sure hasn’t been easy. Lots of late night studying and missing home but nothing ever good in life came easy. There has been a lot of highs this semester but a lot of lows. My friends like to tell me the lows are just funny memories… I would agree haha. It’s all about making memories and living in the moment. These are moments, days, weeks, months, years we are never able to get back. Once we’re out of college it’s the real world so make mistakes, study hard, try new things because oh so very soon it’s all over. I can do this thing called the college and so can you! College is amazing, hard, stressful, fun honestly there are so many words to describe it and nothing like I have ever imagined. As much as you prepare you really don’t know what it’s like till you get there and that’s okay. That’s why I have created these tips to ease your mind about this big life-changing transition.

Keep your door open- When living in a totally new area away from people you know, it’s essential to find some friends on your floor. It’s so comforting to know you can have friends right down the hall for a shoulder to cry on, extra coffee creamer or just to watch a movie. I am beyond thankful to have some of my best friends so close to me and I could never thank the Dennison girls enough.

Don’t go home- Yes. I said it. I know I am such a homebody telling you not to go home. Shocking! Yes, it’s important to go every once in a while for a break or to see your mom. But whether you like it or not this is your new life. I always tell myself you can’t run home when things get tough. Every time I have gone home this semester I have cried leaving haha …so it’s better just to stick it out here. Plan a few trips home with a friend and for holidays get excited for those but remember to live your life here to the fullest.

Stay BUSY- Distract yourself and get involved. Join a club to fill your time and work hard in your classes. Here in Oxford things to do seem limited but there are so many fun things to do if you try hard enough. Plan a movie night in, go out for dinner, get your nails done or attend a football game. If you stay busy you will think less about home and work harder to create the life you want here.

Healthy habits- This does not only include healthy eating but things your body needs. Exercising, emergency c when you feel sick, vitamins, tea and lots lots lots of water. If you don’t feel your body with nutrients and exercising you will get sick and be unhappy. The freshman 15 is real and yes I have had some sort of cold all 4 months I have been here haha. It happens tot he best of us but eating healthy and staying active could lessen your symptoms or prevent sickness.

Self-care- Self-care and healthy habits can go hand and hand. But self-care includes more things like face masks and painting your nails. It’s important to take care of yourself and look the best you can. Doing self-care activities can reduce stress and overall make you feel more comfortable in your own skin here.

Push yourself- Push yourself to go out, hang with new people, work harder in your classes. College is all about independence and self-determination. No one is going to tell you what to do or how to live your life. You are in charge of creating your own life and picking your own path. Please make sure it’s a good one.

Find some friends- It can be tough freshman year first semester finding your niche or group and that’s okay. You don’t need to stick to one group. Bounce around. Study with different friends goes out with different people until you find people that you feel good around. Friends are so important in college they become your family. It takes a village to do college and you need the support of some friends. Lucky to say I have found some great ones that hope last a lifetime.

College I have heard is some of the best years of your life. I mean really have you ever heard of someone not liking college lol? I can’t wait to spend the next 3 and ½ years here it’s going to be a crazy ride. I hope you all stick around for this journey… I promise you won’t want to miss it.

SONGS on repeat​

Last year I did a post about some songs I had been loving and It was so funny to go back and read it. I remembered how I was feeling back then and that some of those songs helped me through hard times. Music is amazing and each song I have listed below has affected me in many different ways. Happy listening!!! (:

Perfect Places- Lorde
No Matter Where You Are- Us The Duo
Miss Me More- Kelsea Ballerini
Lights Down Low- Jessie James Decker
Speechless- Dan+Shay
Somebody To You- The Vamps
We Come Running-Youngblood Hawke
Little Talks- Of Monsters and Men
True Feeling- Galantis
Samurai( feat Katy Tiz)- Vanic
Magic in the Hamptons( feat. Lil Yatchy) – Social House
America’s Sweetheart- Elle King
Springsteen- Eric Church
Almost Love- Sabrina Carpenter
Growing Pains- Alessia Cara
Body(feat. Brando)- Loud Luxury
All I have- Mat Kearney
Champagne and Sunshine- PLVTINUM & Tarro
When I’m With You- Ben Rector
Take My Hand- Secret Nation
South London Forever- Florence + The Machine
Celeste- Erza Vine
Glowing In The Dark- The Girl and The Dreamcatcher
Damage- PARTYNEXTDOOR & Halsey
Good Nights (feat. Mascolo)- Whethan
2002- Anne-Marie
Big Spender (feat. Prince Charlez)- Kiana Lede
Go Off- M.I.A
Multiplied- NEEDTOBREATH
Flowers In Your Hair-The Lumineers
Make This Leap- The Hunts
Raging Fire- Phillips Phillips