As a person who always put others needs first, I tend to forget about my own. I have been left shaken and lost these last few weeks, as I became so used to putting all my love and energy into everyone else. As the summer is beginning to wrap up with everyone is working and moving on with their lives, I have been forced to only worry about taking care of myself. Though this is quite sad for someone like myself, who thrives off others energy, in the end it may be very beneficial.
I have forgotten how to love myself.
Lately, I have been very insecure about my body and just my overall personality. These insecurities are something I really want to work on before I go off to college. Granted, all my insecurities won’t be fully fixed in these next two months, but I hope to see at least some improvement. Every girl- actually every person-has insecurities. However, nobody would ever know because for some reason no one talks about it. Why is not socially acceptable to share our flaws? Why do we all make ourselves seem perfect? Why, when someone opens up to you about an issue, you just pretend you have never felt that way before? Why are so we so scared to be imperfect and why are we so scared to love ourselves before others?
I have done tons of research on self-love/women empowerment over these past few weeks and have compiled the best tips THAT ACTUALLY WORK to begin your journey of self-love.
Be kind to yourself
When you mess up or do something embarrassing, rather than beat yourself up about it, learn from it. Figure out what caused this mistake.. Were you tired, hungry, overworked or jealous, and then figure out what you can do next time to see better results. Being hard on yourself sometimes is needed when you need a little boost, but it can become overpowering and you can become filled with an insane amount of self-hate.
Now, this doesn’t mean go to the spa and blow 300 dollars on a massage even though that may sound nice. Pampering yourself after a long day of work or school could mean taking a bath, watching your favorite show, getting a grande instead of a tall at Starbucks… something little to cheer yourself up and boost your spirits. Pampering yourself physically or mentally are both great ways to relax and show yourself a little extra love.
Surround yourself with positive people
Being around confident good people will inspire and motivate you to love yourself. Life is all about who you surround yourself and nobody can do this on their own. You need the support and love from people around you. Positive energy is contagious.
Clear your mind
Get to know yourself and truly understand your current beliefs and values, and what they mean to you. If your beliefs and values are not fulfilling, think about why you are still clinging onto them. There are many different activities that can help you clear your mind such as meditation, read a book, workout, talk to a friend, or color.
Journaling is a very individual activity and can be very therapeutic. In a world filled with social media, it is really difficult to unplug. Journaling can also boost your mood and recharge your brain. But if you journal daily, it can be the perfect excuse to get away from all the technology and to only focus on yourself.
When was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back or said you were proud of yourself? Maybe you aced your test, made the sports team, made a new friend or got a new job. Recognize all of your accomplishments every day and take a few moments to praise yourself! Taking some time to realize our strengths/wins, our self-esteem will be boosted and our confidence! Celebrate the wins!
Good luck with your self-love journey!
Words to live by